Help! My sister-in-law is driving me crazy. She always wants to stop by the house and visit. He visits always turn into like 3 hours. I have twin two-year-old daughters that I need to spend my time on and I do not have time to sit and entertain my sister-in-law. I don’t want to offend her and she does not have kids of her own so I do not know how to nicely say I do not have time for her. What should I do?
Please Help,
Busy Mom
Dear Busy Mom, you are probably right in assuming that if your sister-in-law does not have kids then she is not aware of the tiring work of taking care of not one but two little preschool children.
Why not take ‘advantage’, and I do not mean this in the negative sense, of her being around. When she stops by and seems to intend to stay for a while then why not say. “Oh great, I’m so glad you’re here. Would you mind keeping an eye on the girls while I make them their lunch?” Or any other chores you may have to do around the house. Keep busy and keep her involved in the tasks at hand. Be careful not to make her feel unwelcome. Remember you are involving her. Do this often enough and it will probably let you know quickly the purpose of dear sister-in-law’s visits. It is either a) She thinks you are just sitting around doing nothing and would just love to sit and chat with her. She’ll quickly realize, by being involved, how much work you really have to do and will leave you to it. Making her visits shorter and further in between. Or b) she doesn’t have children of her own so hanging out with you guys is filling a void in her life. Involving her more may just add to her joy of stopping by for visits and hey, extra help for you. You all win this way!
Good luck! Let me know how it goes
H2H
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